Monday, October 4, 2010

That Sucks

One of my BIGGEST pet peeves and turn offs, is when someone pukes out the quick insensitive phrase, "that sucks". It's rude, it's crass, it's tactless, it's cold hearted and callous. It's probably one of the worst things someone could say to me. Yes, yes, you may not intend to be rude, you're just wanting to express that something is unfortunate but there are so many other options and things you can say instead of "that sucks". 


"That's really unfortunate"
"I'm sorry to hear that"
"That is too bad"
"What a bummer"

These two words would not be in the vocabulary of a lady or a fashionable gentleman. Saying "that sucks" really only throws back the unfortunate situation into the face of the person who's having a bad time. Does that make sense? Like, when I got in a car accident, several people's response to that was, "that sucks". It's like, "No sh*t it sucks, thank you for pointing out the obvious, would you please let me shake your hand and congratulate you because you are so smart." Or when people talk about their break ups and all someone has to say is, "that sucks". Clearly you don't give a sh*t about your friends situation, you're just too lazy to think of something a little more compassionate to say.

Compassion and empathy are huge, two qualities and characteristics that I believe many people lack these days. They're also two qualities that are so easy to possess, it really doesn't take that much effort to sit and listen to someone for a moment, tell them their situation is "too bad" or a "bummer" but that at the end of the day everything will be ok. How hard is that? Not hard at all. So the moral of the story here is, erase those words from your vocabulary or try to keep their use at a minimum. There are plenty of other words and phrases to use that are much more polite and kind.

“A man's manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait.” - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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