Thursday, September 30, 2010

Marie Claire's 12 categories of single women

Like most girls I indulge in reading magazines. Lots of magazines! I enjoy reading what their writers have to say about beauty, fashion, relationships, events etc. I was on Marie Claire's website and came across an article titled "The 12 Categories of Single Women". Naturally I was immediately intrigued. Here is part of it, which single woman are you? 

The Soul-Mate Seeker: Someone who is doing everything she can to find The One.

The Phoenix: A woman who recently had a painful breakup and is doing everything she can to rise from the ashes in better shape.

The Organic: She prefers to leave things up to destiny and live her own life rather than hunting for men in any methodical or calculated way.

The Princess-in-Waiting: She is waiting to be rescued by a prince (who sure is taking his royal time).

The Late Bloomer: The rest of her life is on hold while she waits for her future husband to appear.

The Free Spirit: She worries that she can only have one or the other — her independence or a committed relationship. (And she thinks the former is better.)

The Wedding Wisher: She suddenly finds herself fantasizing about marriage after a lifetime of not caring about it.

The Town Rebel: She no longer aspires to live the cookie-cutter lifestyle of everyone else in her community, though she once used to.

The Ritual Re-inventor: A woman who wants to get hitched but also feels very strongly about having an unconventional marriage (right down to the wedding ceremony).

The Someday-Mom: She would like to have babies someday, but wishes she didn't feel so much biological pressure to figure it out fast.

The Slow & Steady: A woman who hopes to marry when the time is right. Meanwhile, she does her best not to cave to the massive pressure she feels from friends, family, and society.

The Trailblazer: A woman who knows married life is not for her, so she's trying to break a new kind of path to happiness.
Now that you've read through them do you know which you are? I think I'm either The Organic because I do feel that when something is meant to be it will just be, so that kind of makes sense, but then I see The Princess-in-Waiting description and maybe to an extent I fit into that category too. Or there is The Free Spirit, in which I also think I fit into, because I am a free spirit and do value my independence. Dating in general these days I swear is tricky and confusing in itself but I'm going to leave that for another blog post. I plan to write about signs to watch out for to know he/she isn't the one. To hopefully shed some light to people so they don't waste their time with the wrong person. 

All I know is that I aspire to have as amazing of a relationship with my significant other as Olivia and Brian. These two are so in love and adorable its LITERALLY not fair. Love you guys :). 

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Girl Power Hour's 3rd Anniversary Party

Recently in the last couple months I became acquainted with Girl Power Hour. I attended their REPORT Shoes Launch party about a month ago and on Friday night last weekend I got to attend their Anniversary Party. The party was held at the REPORT show rooms in Bellevue (which were amazing by the way!) I think I've written before but I love any excuse to shop for a new dress and shoes, I die for dressing up! I decided to wear a grey Rachel Roy mini dress with a fun zipper and some detail on the side. I also chose to wear my new DV black caged shoes that I picked up last weekend. I had fun in them! I purchased one of their VIP tickets because a friend mentioned that it was the way to go! Let me tell you, it WAS. I got to enjoy a separate and private lounge area with yummy drinks, food, comfy couches, masseuses, make up artists and hair stylists! A fabulous gentleman named Levi who works at Gene Juarez in Bellevue did my hair and touched up my make up for me, he was seriously amazing. Leave it to a great hair stylist and make up artist to make a girl feel pretty right? In addition to all of those fun things, there was music, dancing, a fashion show and even awards! I really enjoyed seeing all of the pretty people who were there, I saw lots of shoes and dresses I wanted in my closet. Men were in suits and ties, holding cocktails and looking good. So not only was the night fun and exciting, I got to make some new friends too! I mean what's a party without making new connections? I had the chance to put the names to some faces of friends I've made on Twitter. Some of my new friends are @nikkipearlG @stephjune23 @amylsanford @matthewtennant @AndyKaruza @Kelsey_Sampson @jaysondemers and @briana9. It was so great to meet all of beautiful/handsome faces!
I'm looking forward to the next GPH event- the swag bag I received was also pretty fantastic! Looks like I'll be enjoying some spray tanning, massages, eye lash extensions, and more! Love it. And thanks to Elliot (@Ell79) for snapping some of these photos!

Monday, September 27, 2010

Benjamin Franklin's "The Way to Wealth"

I realize this is a more hefty post, and I wish I could say I wrote it but my brain is certainly not that of the great Benjamin Franklin. Something I pride myself in and something I was and still am encouraged to do by my fabulous father is to read. To read many genres of books, literature, news you name it. He says it's important to be well informed, to know what's going on in the world and to know and be aware of what has happened. I would also go so far as to say that this would be something a fashionable gentleman would already be doing, as well as the independent woman. Benjamin Franklin's ideas about the road to wealth I think are very interesting. Because if you read through this and think about his points, you'll notice that much if what he says is quite relevant today. I think the road to wealth is through good old fashioned hard work.

Courteous Reader, 

I have heard that nothing gives an author so great pleasure, as to find his works respectfully quoted by other learned authors. This pleasure I have seldom enjoyed; for tho' I have been, if I may say it without vanity, an eminent author of almanacs annually now a full quarter of a century, my brother authors in the same way, for what reason I know not, have ever been very sparing in their applauses; and no other author has taken the least notice of me, so that did not my writings produce me some solid pudding, the great deficiency of praise would have quite discouraged me. 

I concluded at length, that the people were the best judges of my merit; for they buy my works; and besides, in my rambles, where I am not personally known, I have frequently heard one or other of my adages repeated, with, as Poor Richard says, at the end on't; this gave me some satisfaction, as it showed not only that my instructions were regarded, but discovered likewise some respect for my authority; and I own, that to encourage the practice of remembering and repeating those wise sentences, I have sometimes quoted myself with great gravity. 

Judge then how much I must have been gratified by an incident I am going to relate to you. I stopped my horse lately where a great number of people were collected at a vendue of merchant goods. The hour of sale not being come, they were conversing on the badness of the times, and one of the company called to a plain clean old man, with white locks, "Pray, Father Abraham, what think you of the times? Won't these heavy taxes quite ruin the country? How shall we be ever able to pay them? What would you advise us to?" Father Abraham stood up, and replied, "If you'd have my advice, I'll give it you in short, for a word to the wise is enough, and many words won't fill a bushel, as Poor Richard says." They joined in desiring him to speak his mind, and gathering round him, he proceeded as follows: 

"Friends, says he, and neighbors, the taxes are indeed very heavy, and if those laid on by the government were the only ones we had to pay, we might more easily discharge them; but we have many others, and much more grievous to some of us. We are taxed twice as much by our idleness, three times as much by our pride, and four times as much by our folly, and from these taxes the commissioners cannot ease or deliver us by allowing an abatement. However let us hearken to good advice, and something may be done for us; God helps them that help themselves, as Poor Richard says, in his almanac of 1733. 

"It would be thought a hard government that should tax its people one tenth part of their time, to be employed in its service. But idleness taxes many of us much more, if we reckon all that is spent in absolute sloth, or doing of nothing, with that which is spent in idle employments or amusements, that amount to nothing. Sloth,by bringing on diseases, absolutely shortens life. Sloth, like rust, consumes faster than labor wears, while the used key is always bright, as Poor Richard says. But dost thou love life, then do not squander time, for that's the stuff life is made of, as Poor Richard says. How much more than is necessary do we spend in sleep! forgetting that the sleeping fox catches no poultry, and that there will be sleeping enough in the grave, as Poor Richard says. If time be of all things the most precious, wasting time must be, as Poor Richard says, the greatest prodigality, since, as he elsewhere tells us, lost time is never found again, and what we call time-enough, always proves little enough: let us then be up and be doing, and doing to the purpose; so by diligence shall we do more with less perplexity. Sloth makes all things difficult, but industry all easy, as Poor Richard says; and he that riseth late, must trot all day, and shall scarce overtake his business at night. While laziness travels so slowly, that poverty soon overtakes him, as we read in Poor Richard, who adds, drive thy business, let not that drive thee; and early to bed, and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.
"So what signifies wishing and hoping for better times. We may make these times better if we bestir ourselves. Industry need not wish, as Poor Richard says, and he that lives upon hope will die fasting. There are no gains, without pains, then help hands, for I have no lands, or if I have, they are smartly taxed. And, as Poor Richard likewise observes, he that hath a trade hath an estate, and he that hath a calling hath an office of profit and honor; but then the trade must be worked at, and the calling well followed, or neither the estate, nor the office, will enable us to pay our taxes. If we are industrious we shall never starve; for, as Poor Richard says, at the working man's house hunger looks in, but dares not enter. Nor will the bailiff nor the constable enter, for industry pays debts, while despair encreaseth them, says Poor Richard. What though you have found no treasure, nor has any rich relation left you a legacy, diligence is the mother of good luck, as Poor Richard says, and God gives all things to industry. Then plough deep, while sluggards sleep, and you shall have corn to sell and to keep, says Poor Dick. Work while it is called today, for you know not how much you may be hindered tomorrow, which makes Poor Richard say, one today is worth two tomorrows; and farther, have you somewhat to do tomorrow, do it today. If you were a servant, would you not be ashamed that a good master should catch you idle? Are you then your own master, be ashamed to catch yourself idle, as Poor Dick says. When there is so much to be done for yourself, your family, your country, and your gracious king, be up by peep of day; let not the sun look down and say, inglorious here he lies. Handle your tools without mittens; remember that the cat in gloves catches no mice, as Poor Richard says. 'Tis true there is much to be done, and perhaps you are weak handed, but stick to it steadily, and you will see great effects, for constant dropping wears away stones, and by diligence and patience the mouse ate in two the cable; and little strokes fell great oaks, as Poor Richard says in his almanac, the year I cannot just now remember. 

"Methinks I hear some of you say, must a man afford himself no leisure? I will tell thee, my friend, what Poor Richard says, employ thy time well if thou meanest to gain leisure; and, since thou art not sure of a minute, throw not away an hour. Leisure is time for doing something useful; this leisure the diligent man will obtain, but the lazy man never; so that, as Poor Richard says, a life of leisure and a life of laziness are two things. Do you imagine that sloth will afford you more comfort than labor? No, for as Poor Richard says, trouble springs from idleness, and grievous toil from needless ease. Many without labor would live by their wits only, but they break for want of stock. Whereas industry gives comfort, and plenty, and respect: fly pleasures, and they'll follow you. The diligent spinner has a large shift, and now I have a sheep and a cow, everybody bids me good morrow, all which is well said by Poor Richard. 

"But with our industry, we must likewise be steady, settled and careful, and oversee our own affairs with our own eyes, and not trust too much to others; for, as Poor Richard says,
I never saw an oft removed tree,
Nor yet an oft removed family,
That throve so well as those that settled be.
"And again, three removes is as bad as a fire, and again, keep the shop, and thy shop will keep thee; and again, if you would have your business done, go; if not, send. And again,
He that by the plough would thrive,
Himself must either hold or drive.
"And again, the eye of a master will do more work than both his hands; and again, want of care does us more damage than want of knowledge; and again, not to oversee workmen is to leave them your purse open. Trusting too much to others' care is the ruin of many; for, as the almanac says, in the affairs of this world men are saved not by faith, but by the want of it; but a man's own care is profitable; for, saith Poor Dick, learning is to the studious, and riches to the careful, as well as power to the bold, and Heaven to the virtuous. And farther, if you would have a faithful servant, and one that you like, serve yourself. And again, he adviseth to circumspection and care, even in the smallest matters, because sometimes a little neglect may breed great mischief; adding, for want of a nail the shoe was lost; for want of a shoe the horse was lost, and for want of a horse the rider was lost, being overtaken and slain by the enemy, all for want of care about a horse-shoe nail.
"So much for industry, my friends, and attention to one's own business; but to these we must add frugality, if we would make our industry more certainly successful. A man may, if he knows not how to save as he gets, keep his nose all his life to the grindstone, and die not worth a groat at last. A fat kitchen makes a lean will, as Poor Richard says; and,
Many estates are spent in the getting,
Since women for tea forsook spinning and knitting,
And men for punch forsook hewing and splitting.
If you would be wealthy, says he, in another almanac, think of saving as well as of getting: the Indies have not made Spain rich, because her outgoes are greater than her incomes. Away then with your expensive follies, and you will not have so much cause to complain of hard times, heavy taxes, and chargeable families; for, as Poor Dick says,
Women and wine, game and deceit,
Make the wealth small, and the wants great.
And farther, what maintains one vice, would bring up two children. You may think perhaps that a little tea, or a little punch now and then, diet a little more costly, clothes a little finer, and a little entertainment now and then, can be no great Matter; but remember what Poor Richard says, many a little makes a mickle, and farther, beware of little expenses; a small leak will sink a great ship, and again, who dainties love, shall beggars prove, and moreover, fools make Feasts, and wise men eat them

"Here you are all got together at this vendue of fineries and knicknacks. You call them goods, but if you do not take care, they will prove evils to some of you.You expect they will be sold cheap, and perhaps they may for less than they cost; but if you have no occasion for them, they must be dear to you. Remember what Poor Richard says, buy what thou hast no need of, and ere long thou shalt sell thy necessaries. And again, at a great pennyworth pause a while: he means, that perhaps the cheapness is apparent only, and not real; or the bargain, by straitning thee in thy business, may do thee more harm than good. For in another place he says, many have been ruined by buying good pennyworths. Again, Poor Richard says, 'tis foolish to lay our money in a purchase of repentance; and yet this folly is practised every day at vendues, for want of minding the almanac. Wise men, as Poor Dick says, learn by others' harms, fools scarcely by their own, but, felix quem faciunt aliena pericula cautum. Many a one, for the sake of finery on the back, have gone with a hungry belly, and half starved their families; silks and satins, scarlet and velvets, as Poor Richard says, put out the kitchen fire. These are not the necessaries of life; they can scarcely be called the conveniencies, and yet only because they look pretty, how many want to have them. The artificial wants of mankind thus become more numerous than the natural; and, as Poor Dick says, for one poor person, there are an hundred indigent. By these, and other extravagancies, the genteel are reduced to poverty, and forced to borrow of those whom they formerly despised, but who through industry and frugality have maintained their standing; in which case it appears plainly, that a ploughman on his legs is higher than a gentleman on his knees, as Poor Richard says. Perhaps they have had a small estate left them, which they knew not the getting of; they think 'tis day, and will never be night; that a little to be spent out of so much, is not worth minding; (a child and a fool, as Poor Richard says, imagine twenty shillings and twenty years can never be spent) but, always taking out of the meal-tub, and never putting in, soon comes to the bottom; then, as Poor Dick says, when the well's dry, they know the worth of water. But this they might have known before, if they had taken his advice; if you would know the value of money, go and try to borrow some, for, he that goes a borrowing goes a sorrowing, and indeed so does he that lends to such people, when he goes to get it in again. Poor Dick farther advises, and says,
Fond pride of dress, is sure a very curse;
E'er fancy you consult, consult your purse.
And again, pride is as loud a beggar as want, and a great deal more saucy. When you have bought one fine thing you must buy ten more, that your appearance maybe all of a piece; but Poor Dick says, 'tis easier to suppress the first desire than to satisfy all that follow it. And 'tis as truly folly for the poor to ape the rich, as for the frog to swell, in order to equal the ox.
Great estates may venture more,
But little boats should keep near shore.
'Tis however a folly soon punished; for pride that dines on vanity sups on contempt, as Poor Richard says. And in another place, pride breakfasted with plenty, dined with poverty, and supped with infamy. And after all, of what use is this pride of appearance, for which so much is risked, so much is suffered? It cannot promote health; or ease pain; it makes no increase of merit in the person, it creates envy, it hastens misfortune.
What is a butterfly? At best
He's but a caterpillar dressed.
The gaudy fop's his picture just,
as Poor Richard says. 

"But what madness must it be to run in debt for these superfluities! We are offered, by the terms of this vendue, six months' credit; and that perhaps has induced some of us to attend it, because we cannot spare the ready money, and hope now to be fine without it. But, ah, think what you do when you run in debt; you give to another power over your liberty. If you cannot pay at the time, you will be ashamed to see your creditor; you will be in fear when you speak to him, you will make poor pitiful sneaking excuses, and by degrees come to lose you veracity, and sink into base downright lying; for, as Poor Richard says, the second vice is lying, the first is running in debt. And again to the same purpose, lying rides upon debt's back. Whereas a freeborn Englishman ought not to be ashamed or afraid to see or speak to any man living. But poverty often deprives a man of all spirit and virtue: 'tis hard for an empty bag to stand upright, as Poor Richard truly says. What would you think of that Prince, or that government, who should issue an edict forbidding you to dress like a gentleman or a gentlewoman, on pain of imprisonment or servitude? Would you not say, that you are free, have a right to dress as you please, and that such an edict would be a breach of your privileges, and such a government tyrannical? And yet you are about to put yourself under that tyranny when you run in debt for such dress! Your creditor has authority at his pleasure to deprive you of your liberty, by confining you in gaol for life, or to sell you for a servant, if you should not be able to pay him! When you have got your bargain, you may, perhaps, think little of payment; but creditors, Poor Richard tells us, have better memories than debtors, and in another place says, creditors are a superstitious sect, great observers of set days and times. The day comes round before you are aware, and the demand is made before you are prepared to satisfy it. Or if you bear your debt in mind, the term which at first seemed so long, will, as it lessens, appear extreamly short. Time will seem to have added wings to his heels as well as shoulders. Those have a short Lent, saith Poor Richard, who owe money to be paid at Easter. Then since, as he says, the borrower is a slave to the lender, and the debtor to the creditor, disdain the chain, preserve your freedom; and maintain your independency: be industrious and free; be frugal and free. At present, perhaps, you may think yourself in thriving circumstances, and that you can bear a little extravagance without injury; but,
For age and want, save while you may;
No morning sun lasts a whole day,
as Poor Richard says. Gain may be temporary and uncertain, but ever while you live, expense is constant and certain; and 'tis easier to build two chimneys than to keep one in fuel, as Poor Richard says. So rather go to bed supperless than rise in debt.
Get what you can, and what you get hold;
'Tis the stone that will turn all your lead into gold,
as Poor Richard says. And when you have got the philosopher's stone, sure you will no longer complain of bad times, or the difficulty of paying taxes.
"This doctrine, my friends, is reason and wisdom; but after all, do not depend too much upon your own industry, and frugality, and prudence, though excellent things, for they may all be blasted without the blessing of heaven; and therefore ask that blessing humbly, and be not uncharitable to those that at present seem to want it, but comfort and help them. Remember Job suffered, and was afterwards prosperous.

"And now to conclude, experience keeps a dear school, but fools will learn in no other, and scarce in that, for it is true, we may give advice, but we cannot give conduct, as Poor Richard says: however, remember this, they that won't be counseled, can't be helped, as Poor Richard says: and farther, that if you will not hear reason, she'll surely rap your knuckles.

Thus the old gentleman ended his harangue. The people heard it, and approved the doctrine, and immediately practiced the contrary, just as if it had been a common sermon; for the vendue opened, and they began to buy extravagantly, notwithstanding all his cautions, and their own fear of taxes. I found the good man had thoroughly studied my almanacs, and digested all I had dropped on those topics during the course of five-and-twenty years. The frequent mention he made of me must have tired any one else, but my vanity was wonderfully delighted with it, though I was conscious that not a tenth part of the wisdom was my own which he ascribed to me, but rather the gleanings I had made of the sense of all ages and nations. However, I resolved to be the better for the echo of it; and though I had at first determined to buy stuff for a new coat, I went away resolved to wear my old one a little longer. Reader, if thou wilt do the same, thy profit will be as great as mine. I am, as ever, thine to serve thee,

Richard Saunders.
July 7, 1757.

Friday, September 24, 2010

What are you thankful for?

I think in order to keep grounded and sane, it's important to stop and remember to breathe, first of all and then of course have coffee in your hand. All while thinking about all the things you are thankful for in life. Naturally life isn't always sunshine, kittens and rainbows, but I think for the most part the majority of people have it pretty good. I think if you have a roof over your head, shoes on your feet, and arms and legs that work you're doing ok. When I'm having a rough day or things just don't seem to be moving in the direction I want them to, I always remind myself that things could be worse. I could be alone, not have my friends and family, not have the ability to talk or walk. To be thankful is part of being humble and part of being a good person in general, it's really refreshing when I meet people of humility and integrity. Those people these days are few and far between sadly. Humility is also a quality of ladies and of gentlemen.

Do you wish to be great? Then begin by being. Do you desire to construct a vast and lofty fabric? Think first about the foundations of humility. The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation.
-Saint Augustine

I am thankful for
My family, dad, sister and brother
My dog, Amelia
My job
My friends
Starbucks Coffee
The rain
and for laughter

What are you thankful for?

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Thursday's Thoughts

 I find it very convenient timing that Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg donates $100 million dollars to save Newark schools right before "The Social Network" comes out. Looks like somebody's trying to look heroic. Completely opposite of how he's being portrayed in the movie. I guess I little positive PR never hurt anyone. You can read more about it in the WSJ.

Wednesday, September 22, 2010

5 things I love right now

1. My Shu Uemura Shampoo and Conditioner. Purchased at Gene Juarez.

2. My new Steve Madden boots. Purchased at Nordstrom.

 3. My new DV black caged heels. Purchased at Macy's.

4. My perfume, Flower Bomb by Viktor and Rolf. Purchased at Nordstrom.

 5. Gossip Girl.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

Rainn Wilson and the Mona Foundation

If you know me or if you've read through my Twitter or Blog bio you'd know that philanthropy and being involved in charity work is a huge part of my life. I firmly believe that if you are able to, its important to give back to the community in which you live. It's kind of like how John F. Kennedy once said, "And so, my fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country." I feel that it is my duty and privilege to help those in need, to help increase the well-being of mankind and to promote positive human welfare. Among the various amazing organizations throughout the world, is the Mona Foundation,

Mona’s Mission

Mona Foundation is a 501 (c) (3) nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting grassroots educational initiatives and raising the status of women and girls worldwide.

Mona Foundation serves its mission through development of human resources, promoting service learning and volunteerism, bridging the digital divide and supporting our adopted projects through financial grants and material resources that these projects need for their everyday operation or for their development plans.
The Mona Foundation has an upcoming event next month to benefit their cause, 

Rainn Wilson & Friends

A Benefit for Mona Foundation in Seattle

The Seattle Theater Group (STG) presents Rainn Wilson & Friends at The Moore Theater in Seattle on Saturday, October 23rd. Don’t miss this one of a kind show where Rainn will entertain and bring along a few surprise guests (keep checking back to find out who) to benefit Mona Foundation! Tickets go on sale to the public on September 17th and can be purchased through STG here.
Mona Foundation will also be hosting an exclusive pre-show dinner and an exclusive after party with Rainn and cast from the show.  See details below, tickets are sold seperately through STG.
Pre-show dinner:
Join Rainn and his band of performers for a delectable pre-show dinner at the Steelhead Diner from 5:00pm to 6:30pm.  Heavy hors d'ouevres along with beer/wine will be served while you visit with cast members of the show and enjoy a lovely view from the private dining room overlooking the Pike Place Market.  This intimate (and fun) event guarantees to put you in the mood for a fabulous show with lots of laughs beforehand!  Net proceeds of tickets will support our projects around the world.  The dinner ticket includes a ticket to the main event.  A limited number of tickets are available and can be purchased through STG online.
After party:
Join "Rainn & Friends" for more laughs at an exclusive after party in the Moore Theater lobby!  Hang out with your friends while enjoying complementary drinks and goodies, and get to chat with Rainn and other cast members from the show.  Don't miss it! Net proceeds of tickets support our projects around the world.  A limited number of tickets are available and can be purchased through STG online.
Rainn Wilson, a native Seattleite and Emmy nominated actor primarily known for his role as Dwight Schrute on the NBC comedy the Office, has supported Mona Foundation as a spokesperson since 2007.

If you are interested in attending any of these events contact us.

Monday, September 20, 2010

The importance of being independent

The word independence is defined by Google as, "freedom from control or influence of another or others." 
The Independent Woman as defined by the Urban Dictionary is, "A woman who pays her own bills, buys her own things, and DOES NOT allow a man to affect her stability or self-confidence. She supports her self on her own entirely and is proud to be able to do so." 

As a young woman navigating my way in the real world I feel it is very important that I am independent. I like doing things on my own, it may be partly from my upbringing but I'm fairly stubborn in that I don't like to ask for help. Don't get me wrong, I've asked for help in the past but I try to keep that at a minimum. I don't like asking for help for a couple of reasons, 1. because I hate feeling indebted to people, and 2. because I like learning how to do things myself. I find it gratifying and empowering to know that whatever I set my mind to I can accomplish on my own. Through my own hard work, sweat, tears, whatever it takes to get to where I want to be and to have what I want. It's good to really dig deep, learn about who you are as human being, what you like, what you dislike, think about your goals- long term and short term. Where you want to be in 10 years etc. Not to be totally negative but really this is a pretty cut throat world, yeah people are nice but really at the end of the day you have to be your own best friend and look out for your own best interests. I think in life there are two things that are certain, at the end of the day I am accountable for myself and my actions and I know that no matter what my dad, sister and brother will always be there for me. Beyond that I don't expect anything else from anyone.

It's important to be independent because no one likes a needy person. If you're super codependent or needy then you're boring and uninteresting. Now you may think that being independent might be lonely right? Wrong, it's not. You can be independent while still having friends and fun. It's all about balance. Being independent is also interesting and intriguing.

Some ways you can be an independent woman are
  1. Get a solid education so that you can later get a job that pays well. Or any other kind of professional training that will help you develop marketable skills to get a good job. Financial independence is key. 
  2. Invest some money, learn about your investment options because there are many. It's one thing to be able to make rent every month, its another to begin building your wealth and assets. 
  3. Be confident. 
  4. Understand that a healthy relationship with a man or woman is wanting to be with them, not needing to be with them. 
  5. Be compassionate and kind.
  6. Define who you are, know yourself. What you like/dislike etc. 
  7. Always think logically and critically, don't just accept the answers of other people. If something doesn't make sense investigate. 
  8. Be interesting, do you have a hobby or favorite pass time? Make sure that when you're not working you're doing productive positive things. 
  9. Travel somewhere completely on your own. I promise it's not as scary as it may seem, its actually a lot of fun. 
  10. Get a role model, pick someone you admire or who have qualities and characteristics that you want to be like and emulate them. Think about Oprah, Anna Wintour, or Jennifer Aniston. 
“A woman is like a tea bag, you can not tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water” -Nancy Reagan.

Saturday, September 18, 2010

7 things you need to know before you take your kid to college

7 things every parent/big sister should know/be prepared for, before taking their child to college
It's funny, all my life and especially since Katia graduated (for those of you that don't know, Katia is my baby sister) from high school, I've known that the day would come that she would pack her things and move away to college. To begin a new chapter in her life, the part where she leaves home and becomes an independent adult in the real world. So I've had all this time to prepare for this day, and of course all that hard work and dedicated preparation went out the window. I was an absolute mess when leaving her at school today. I'm truly more than proud of Katia, she is not only beautiful on the outside, she is stunning on the inside as well. There is no one more kind, mature, or responsible than her. I know we'll get to talk on the phone a lot and hopefully visit each other often. I just need to keep telling myself she is going to be ok, and so am I. I'm excited, this is a big step!
1. Drink massive amounts of caffeine so that you can stay awake and energized for the long day of moving in.
2. Bring a screwdriver, seriously something will come up where you'll realize you need it.
3. Bring a spare key to your car in case your keys get locked in your car.
4. Bring a dolly or kart to carry in all your bags and boxes.
5. A camera, to document the big day.
6. Wear tennis shoes and comfortable clothes for all the moving and organizing, then bring an extra change of clothes and make up so that you can touch up and change after you're all done being tired and sweaty.
7. and finally bring Kleenex, lots and lots of Kleenex.

Friday, September 17, 2010


Proper foundation is essential to an even tone and texture to your make up- hence the name. Foundation when used correctly makes you beautiful and helps set the tone for your make up. Choosing the right foundation can be tough, you have to pick the right tone for your skin (a lot of people think that you have to pick the color according to your face when it's actually the color of your neck that you should be matching) and the consistency of your foundation, ie a mouse, spray, tinted moisturizer etc. These are there of my favorite foundations starting from the least expensive to the more pricey. All work very well!

Photo Ready by Revlon costs about $12-14. You can find it at any local drug store. It works pretty well, it lasts throughout the day and even has a little bit of shimmer! It's pretty light, so nothing too heavy, which I like. I hate feeling like my face is caked.

You Rebel by Benefit costs about $30. You can find it at Macy's or any Sephora. What I love about this is that it is actually a tinted moisturizer. Its super light and very face perfecting, I get lots of compliments on how clear my face looks when I wear this foundation. My favorite!

Teint Innocence by Chanel costs about $47. It is TOTALLY worth the money though. It's light and seriously has a very long lasting coverage. It also has a little bit of shimmer to it and gives your face a beautiful, healthy, clear glow!

Thursday, September 16, 2010

The Fashionable Man

Wardrobe Essentials for the Fashionable Man

Men's fashion is just as important as women's fashion. What a man wears or has with him, says a lot about him. I think. Though every man has his own unique style, as does every woman- there are certain things I feel every man should own. They are as follows.

A Great Cologne. When I am around a guy one of the first things I try and notice is if they're wearing cologne, if you smell good girls are going to be attracted to you. Trust me. If a guy smells nice, I notice. Colognes I recommend are ones such as Code by Armani, L'Homme by YSL, or Azure Lime by Tom Ford. Your scent can also share a little bit about your personality and style.

A Suit. Suits over time have withstood expiration. A great suit is essential for the fashionable man. Suits if worn correctly make you look better, they convey a certain essence of style, sophistication, professionalism and success. A great suit is an outfit that will never fail the fashionable man. A suit is something that can be worn everywhere, whether you're at work, going to dinner at Canlis in Seattle, or if you're dining atop the Eiffel Tower in Paris France. Suits can be worn in several colors, navy blue which exudes power and is great because it goes with black and brown shoes, the basic grey also appropriate for any occasion, grey suits pair well with patterns and the color red, and finally the classic black suit, appropriate for red carpets, weddings, and walks in the park. Suits are always appropriate and always encouraged. So men, go put one on, comb your hair, put on some cologne, grab a chic cocktail and head out for a fabulous evening.

Black Shoes, Black Belt. The fashionable man's shoes always match the color of his belt. Mixing colors is a big no-no. This really needs no explanation, black shoes, black belt=fashion fundamental. These can be worn in a casual or more formal setting. Period. 

A Watch. This is really the only piece of jewelry that a man needs (besides a wedding ring of course). A watch is timeless and sophisticated. A great watch can say a lot about a man's fashion sense. Personally I think a silver watch or a watch with some kind of black band is the most practical. Gold can be a little tricky. 

Jeans. A staple for the fashionable man. Jeans are an American classic, they can be dressed up or down and are comfortable for those lazy Sunday's or for an afternoon at the ballpark. Keep is simple please, and remember less is more. No studs, colors, swirls, or glitter. 

A Sweater Made of Cashmere. A sweater is great for when you can't decide what to wear. All you have to do is throw it on and you're ready to go. A cashmere sweater always looks good and is sure to keep you warm on these rainy fall Seattle days. 

A Passport. The fashionable man will possess a passport so that he can jet set and travel when he pleases.

A Warm Coat. A nice coat will compliment and complete any outfit. 

Sunglasses. Sunglasses enhance the look of an outfit while protecting your eyes from the damaging rays from the sun. 

A Grooming Kit. Hygiene is crucial, the fashionable man is well kept and well groomed. 

An iPod Full of Good Music. While I realize that music is a very subjective topic, the fashionable man should be well versed in various genres of music. He doesn't have to like them all but he should be familiar with some and have the ability to respect and appreciate all music. Music such as Mozart, Chopin, Maroon 5, ACDC, John Legend, 30 Seconds to Mars, Thrice, Paramore, Opera, Enrique Iglesias, Lady Gaga, Lil Wayne, Jay Z, Journey, Michael Buble, Enya, Yanni, Kenny G, The Format, Kaskade, The Fray, Patsy Cline, Nat King Cole, Josh Groban, The Beatles, Elton John, Billy Joel, B.o.B, Britney Spears, and Charlotte Church. 

Well there you have it. Some essentials for the fashionable man according to me, @MollieinSeattle. Along with these material things, remember the fashionable man has a positive, kind and humble attitude. He is gracious and hard working. The fashionable man should also put others before himself and be a philanthropist. 
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