Friday, July 2, 2010

The Handshake

Shaking hands when you first meet someone is a pretty common practice. I think a handshake can say a lot about a person and their personality characteristics, without ever opening their mouth. A handshake has a lot to do first impressions and I don't think it's too bold to say that it is one way people judge you. I know that when I meet a new person and make the effort to reach out my hand to shake theirs I'm ready to let them know who I am. A solid and firm grip says that you are confident and open, a limp or weak handshake can imply that you are shy and anxious. Basically what I'm trying to say is that I think handshakes matter, there really is nothing worse than making an effort to shake someone's hand and they give you the limp, dead and effortless shake back. 

To evade making a bad first impression, losing a business deal or simply embarrassing yourself, take heed of Holland and Brody’s 10 terrible grips to avoid:

The “macho cowboy”… is the almost bone-crunching clasp many businessmen use to shake hands. What are they trying to prove, anyway? There’s no need to demonstrate your physical strength when shaking another person’s hand.

The wimp… is usually delivered by men who are afraid to “hurt the little lady” when shaking women’s hands. Modern female professionals expect their male counterparts to convey the same respect they’d show their male colleagues.

The “dead fish”… conveys no power. While there’s no need to revert to the macho cowboy death grip, a firm clasp is more powerful than one that barely grabs the hand.

The “four finger”… is when the person’s hand never meets your palm, and instead clasps all four fingers, crushing them together.

The cold and clammy… feels like you’re shaking hands with a snake. Warm up your hand first before grabbing someone else’s.

The sweaty palm… is pretty self-explanatory, and pretty gross. Talcum powder to the rescue.

The “I’ve got you covered” grip… happens when the other person covers your hand with his or her left hand as if your shake is secretive.

The “I won’t let go”… seems to go on for eternity because the other person won’t drop his or her hand. After two or three pumps, it’s time to let go. “It’s a lot like a kiss — you know when it’s over,” Brody says.

The “southpaw”… happens when the person uses the left hand to shake because the right hand has food or a drink. Always carry your drink and plate with your left hand to keep your right one free for meet and greets.

The “ringed torture”… occurs when the person’s rings hurt your hand. Try to limit the number of rings you wear on the right hand to only one or two and be mindful of any that have large stones.

Three steps to a proper handshake
Some other things to keep in mind:
As you’re approaching someone, extend your right arm when you’re about three feet away. Slightly angle your arm across your chest, with your thumb pointing up.
Lock hands, thumb joint to thumb joint. Then, firmly clasp the other person’s hand — without any bone crushing or macho posturing.
Pump the other person’s hand two to three times and let go.

Six tips to an effective meet ‘n greet
Stand up.
Step or lean forward.
Make eye contact.
Have a pleasant or animated face.
Shake hands.
Greet the other person and repeat his or her name.

And there you have it! No limp/weak handshakes people. 

1 comment:

  1. omg that dead fish makes me crrriinnnggggeeee ewewewew i hate it hate it hate it

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